So my Dad passed over 20 years ago at way to young an age...61. I was 25 and barely started making my way in the world. (I had a late start, LOL).
He taught me a whole bunch of things and he didn't even realize it. That was my fault as I never took the time to tell him.
Anyway, one thing I've learned that as a parent we do the best we can to raise our kids right. Recently I was talking with a guy at work who has a 4 yr old.... and I came to a realization.
Now it may seem obvious to some but I guess it all comes down to perspective. We want to raise our kids to be productive citizens...to be good people....to treat others with respect...to mind their manners and their mouths.
We are also teaching them how to be a parent.
That can mean to be like us or to not be like us. Hopefully they learn from our mistakes.
I have to stop myself sometimes from holding my kids too accountable....going overboard with accountability doesn't do any good. I have that tendency as my folks didn't really hold me accountable for the knucklehead stuff I did.
There are times when I want to "lecture" them....but I stop myself. I would rather talk to them as young adults and teach them.
At the end of the day all I can do is hope that did the best I could. Some days I can "yes I did", other days not so much.
Every day I wake up I thank God for letting me do so, and ask for the strength and wisdom I need to do the best I can for them.
What kind of parent are you raising tour kids to be?